(Today’s Author is Charlotte from MWM South Hams)
I’m not sure how many times a day I get asked “Why?” at the moment but if I was to hazard a guess I’d say about 655,791. My 3-year-old hit that stage a couple of weeks ago and in the last few days my 1 year old has cottoned on and started doing it too…I really hope it doesn’t carry on until she is 3. It sometimes drives me crazy, especially when he is just saying it as an automatic response at the end of all my sentences and not because he really wants to know the answer. This week he burst into my room at 5:50am shouting “Mummy is it morning?”, to which I responded “No, it’s too early.”, to which he replied “Why?!” followed by a short (and fairly terse) exchange including at least another 7 whys before 6am.
There are times, though, when he appears to be genuinely curious and sometimes surprised and pleased by what he is learning through his incessant questioning and my responses and I love that. He is learning everything about the world around him from scratch and I love that I am a part of that learning. I have found that attending Music with Mummy sessions with my own children has helped me to notice how much information they are constantly gathering. Even when they don’t appear to have taken it in or had a day when they haven’t wanted to join in much, they will still come out with new words, songs or gestures at home that show they have listened to everything (another reminder to be careful how I answer the endless whys when I’m tired and irritated!).
I started a new group in Dartington this week and it was great to meet new families, some who are beginning their Music with Mummy journey and some who have been before and are returning with younger children. Running Music with Mummy sessions enables me to facilitate the learning experience of every child in my groups which is what makes it so rewarding. To see them grow and develop week after week, learning new songs and activities and gaining confidence socially and with speech makes a difference to me and, I hope, to them and their families too. I am continuing my own learning journey about what works for each individual and how to allow everyone to get the best out of their time at the group. A lot has changed for me during my first half term and I am growing in confidence and understanding just as the children are.
I don’t know how long my 3-year-old’s interrogation of me will continue, I feel a bit like a contestant on SAS: Who Dares Wins some days. I hope my one year old gives me a bit of ‘why’ respite before she starts her own inquisition but in the meantime, I am going to have to learn to hold my nerve and remember why he is asking ‘why’. I know from speaking to friends with older children that I ought to make the most this time before he doesn’t want to know why or want to speak or listen to me at all but I reckon I’ve got about 9 or 10 years until I have that to contend with…but hopefully not 10 years of why, I’m only human.
Charlotte x x x
PS. The photo above is my youngest with her great-grandpa who is 97 years young and who along with my grandma, celebrated their 73rd wedding anniversary this week!
This is them on their special day x